1) You might be keeping it to urself for a loooong time. Which is not good. Solution? You need to let it out, share with others. By doing so, you will feel that half of the burden already removed
2) Lack of self-confidence. Low self-esteem. Solution? Always think positive, look at the bright side, and always and always have good thoughts on the outcomes of the event
3) as a friend once told me, “stop and smell the roses”. Anyway, to at least see the glimpse of what the solution could be, disconnect yourself from the situation and try to see the issue from 3rd point of view. What would other people do? What would others see? Also, pamper yourself. Not too much, but just enough to keep your mind off the issue for A WHILE.
4) Avoid having prolong escapism from the issue. You will still have to face and solve it, hence by running away or pretending it’s not there, is not a wise thing to do. As mentioned in point no.3, yes, you may take a vacation or have a long weekend to free yourself from the issue. But, avoid falling into the trap of feeling down and demoralized once the vacation ends. The purpose of the getaway is to refresh the mind, not to go away and hope things will fix on its own.
5) And not to forget, to every problem there is always at least a solution. Usaha, Tawakal, Do’a. Allah is always there for us.
sometimes (or rather most of the time) i keep things to myself because im too conscious, takut orang boring dengar what i have to say
and i dont know why, but i rasa when i talk, ppl dont listen. and i hate that and it hurts sgt when ppl dont
so i lagi rela keep things to myself
and i selalu rasa orang selalu take advantage of me, or condemn what i have to say just because i tak cepat marah
Love,
1. There is a fine line on living in denial AND looking at the bright side. Living in denial is like pretending that nothing happened, or if it does happened, it will fix by its own (refer to point.4 in previous advice). Looking at the bright side, in my context, is slightly different. You confirm with yourself that, yes, I am in deep shit. Then, think of positive things i.e luckily it happened to me now, not when I was in the toilet doing my daily business. Lepas tu, which even I myself found macam susah sikit, is to formulate plan how to make things better. And finally, work it out. Conclusion: get yourself back to reality, use God-given gift to think of how to get out of the mess, and implement the plan with all our strength (external factors are to be ignored)
2. You think people listen to me when I talk? Most of the time, they don’t. but who cares? You tell them because you need to let it out. If you tell them because you need their help or tips or guidance, then you have to be selective of to whom you’re talking to. When telling people, always have the purpose. Is it because I just want to let it out? Or is it because I want to get others opinion? I believe, most of the time, you want others to think for you. Hence, the disappointment when they cannot come out with any solution, thus making you feel like they are not listening. Anyway, kalau dok cerita2 dalam club, memang tak dengar la kot? Sumerang tgh sibuk dgr the glaring music from the nearby speakers. Conclusion: know your purpose of telling others, and know your audience. (macam I dok berleter panjang ni laa.. only u je yang maybe akan digest. The others, maybe akan baca sikit, pastu delete hahahaaha)
3. Take advantage of you? Condemn of what you have to say just because you tak cepat marah? Clearly you have low self esteem. Love, in my circle of friends, I selalu je kena buli/kutuk/kena target. But who cares? Don’t take them seriously. Kena sabar la sikit. Senang cerita, get out of that circle. If you’re stuck with them i.e office mates, have minimal contact with them.
4. Susah2 pun, express yourself by writing. Lately ur writing macam dah pendek2 kot? hahaha
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